Communication Timeline: When to Share What
Timing your communications properly ensures guests have information when they need it without feeling overwhelmed. As Martha Stewart Weddings recommends, here's the optimal timeline for sharing hotel information throughout your engagement.
Save-the-Date
8-12 Months BeforeMail + Website
First mention of hotel arrangements
Wedding Website Live
6-8 Months BeforeWebsite
Full hotel details available online
Dedicated Hotel Email
3-4 Months BeforeDirect outreach to out-of-town guests
Invitation Insert
6-8 Weeks BeforePhysical reminder with formal invitation
Reminder Email
2-3 Weeks Before DeadlineFinal push before rooms are released
Follow-Up (Optional)
After DeadlineEmail/Phone
Help for late bookers
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Ready-to-Use Email Templates
Copy these templates and customize with your wedding details. They're designed to be warm, informative, and easy to scan.
Main Hotel Information Email
Hotel Accommodations for [NAME] & [NAME]'s Wedding
Dear [Guest Name], We're so excited to celebrate our wedding with you on [DATE] at [VENUE]! For those traveling from out of town, we've arranged special room rates at the following hotels: **[HOTEL NAME 1]** - [Distance] from venue - Rate: $[RATE]/night - Book by: [DEADLINE] - Amenities: [Key amenities] - Book online: [LINK] - Or call: [PHONE] and mention "[GROUP NAME]" **[HOTEL NAME 2]** - [Distance] from venue - Rate: $[RATE]/night - Book by: [DEADLINE] - Amenities: [Key amenities] - Book online: [LINK] - Or call: [PHONE] and mention "[GROUP NAME]" Please book by [DEADLINE] to guarantee the group rate. After this date, rooms will be released and rates may increase. For more details about the wedding weekend, visit our wedding website: [WEBSITE URL] We can't wait to see you! With love, [COUPLE NAMES]
Deadline Reminder Email
Reminder: Hotel Room Block Deadline [DATE]
Hi [Guest Name], Just a friendly reminder that our hotel room block deadline is coming up on [DEADLINE] - that's just [X] days away! If you haven't booked yet, here are the direct links: - [HOTEL 1]: [BOOKING LINK] - [HOTEL 2]: [BOOKING LINK] After [DEADLINE], unreserved rooms will be released back to the hotels, and you may need to pay higher rates. Questions? Just reply to this email or check our wedding website: [URL] See you soon! [COUPLE NAMES]
Invitation Insert Card
ACCOMMODATIONS We've reserved room blocks at special rates: [HOTEL NAME 1] $[RATE]/night | Book by [DATE] [PHONE] | Code: [CODE] [HOTEL NAME 2] $[RATE]/night | Book by [DATE] [PHONE] | Code: [CODE] Full details at [WEBSITE URL]
Wedding Website Accommodations Page
Your wedding website's Travel or Accommodations page is where guests go for complete details. Structure it for easy scanning - guests should find booking info within seconds.
Recommended Page Structure
Introduction
Brief welcome and acknowledgment of travel
Hotel Options
Each hotel with rate, amenities, booking info
Booking Deadline
Clear date when group rate expires
Booking Instructions
How to book (link, phone, code)
Transportation
Distance to venue, directions, parking info
Shuttle Info
If providing shuttles, include schedule
Area Highlights
Nearby restaurants, attractions (optional)
Contact
Who to contact with questions
Etiquette Dos and Don'ts
How you communicate hotel information matters as much as what you communicate. Follow these etiquette guidelines to be helpful without being pushy.
Do
Provide multiple hotel options at different price points
Respects guests' varying budgets
Share booking deadlines clearly and early
Gives guests time to plan and budget
Include direct booking links when possible
Makes it easy for guests to book
Send reminders before the deadline
Helps guests who may have forgotten
Mention transportation/distance to venue
Helps guests plan their logistics
Update information if anything changes
Prevents confusion and missed bookings
Thank guests for traveling to celebrate
Shows appreciation for their effort
Offer to help with questions
Makes guests feel supported
Don't
Label hotels as 'cheap' or 'expensive'
Can embarrass budget-conscious guests
Pressure guests to stay at specific hotels
Some may have loyalty points or preferences
Overshare logistical details on main invitation
Clutters the invitation; use website/inserts
Wait until last minute to share info
Guests need time to book flights and rooms
Forget to include booking codes/links
Makes booking frustrating for guests
Assume all guests will use your block
Some will book independently
Send excessive reminder emails
One reminder is sufficient; more is pushy
Share rooming list publicly
Guest bookings are private information
Welcome Bag Coordination
Welcome bags are a thoughtful touch for out-of-town guests. Here's how to coordinate with hotels for smooth delivery.
Coordination
- Contact hotel 3-4 weeks before to confirm delivery process
- Get name and direct contact of person handling delivery
- Confirm any fees for bag delivery
- Provide guest list with arrival dates if staggered
- Plan for bags to be placed day of arrival, not days before
What to Include
- Welcome note with weekend schedule
- Local snacks or treats
- Water bottles
- Wedding weekend itinerary
- Local area guide or map
- Thank you note for traveling
What to Skip
- Heavy or bulky items guests must pack home
- Perishable food (unless arriving same day)
- Alcohol (some hotels prohibit)
- Anything valuable that could be stolen
- Excessive branded items
Handling Late Bookers
Despite your best efforts, some guests will miss the deadline. Here's how to help them gracefully.
After the Deadline
Step 1: Check with the Hotel
Contact your group coordinator. Many hotels will extend the group rate for a few additional guests as a courtesy, especially if your block filled well.
Step 2: Provide Alternatives
Have backup hotel suggestions ready. Late bookers can check if rooms are still available at standard rates, or book at nearby alternatives.
Step 3: Don't Stress
You provided ample notice and reminders. Guests who miss deadlines can figure out their own accommodations - that's not your responsibility to solve.
Sample Message for Late Bookers
"Unfortunately, our hotel room block deadline has passed and rooms have been released. You can still try booking at [HOTEL] at their standard rate if available. Alternatively, [HOTEL B] and [HOTEL C] are also nearby options. Let me know if you need any help!"
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